“Alignment” is a word I used to associate with chiropractors and spinal columns. Now I talk a lot about “value alignment”. It’s a concept I find useful in my personal life, and also professionally in the parent coaching work I do. Basically, it’s about how closely our behaviour matches up with our internal beliefs. Ideally, I want my values about sex, my own sexual behaviour and what I teach my kid about sexuality to be as consistent, or in alignment, as possible.
One of the first things we do in the parent coaching process is to talk about your beliefs around sexuality. You may have a very clear sense of what your values are. You may not be sure. Or you may have strong ideas about certain aspects of sexuality but not others. No matter where you are, you have a right to your own beliefs and it’s not my job to judge or change them. What I can do is help you more clearly identify what’s important to you, so that you can make sure the lessons you’re giving your children about sexuality align with your values.
I offer in-person parent coaching for people living in the Greater Toronto Area. For folks outside the GTA (or those who prefer chilling in their pyjamas), I also do remote coaching via Skype or Google Hangout. Contact me to book a session or head on over to my website for more information.