Every day in April, I’ll be posting a video about one of the questions in my guide, (Over) 100 Questions To Ask Your Kids About Sexuality. The guide is free and if you don’t have it, you can get it by clicking here. Here’s a question about personal and family boundaries that you can ask your school age children: “In our family what parts of bodies do we keep covered?” This conversation is all about your family’s values around modesty. There’s no right or wrong answer here. You get to set the dress code that works in your home. Some families are fine with total nudity around the house. Other families choose to keep their bodies covered virtually all the time. You might have a rule that certain parts of the body, such as breasts or genitals need to stay clothed. You might allow nudity amongst family members of the same gender; but not in mixed gender groups. You might believe it’s okay for kids to be naked with siblings and parents to be naked with each other, but not for adults to be naked around kids or vice-versa. Some folks perceive nudity or particular parts of the body as being fundamentally sexual. For others, that perception can change based on who we’re looking at and what the situation is. There are also people who never think of people or their bodies in sexual ways. The long and short is that it’s all very individual. So when you’re explaining the family guidelines about nudity and modesty to your kids, consider taking some time to let them know why you’ve put these boundaries in place and what your values are.
For more on family values around nudity, check out one of my very first videos here.