If We're Gonna Talk About Consent, We Need To Talk About Pleasure

Our culture doesn’t have a great track record when it comes to prioritizing sexual consent. And that is, at least in part, because our culture doesn’t prioritize sexual pleasure.

When Is It Okay To Share Someone's Photos?

These posts are based on the questions in my guide, (Over) 100 Questions To Ask Your Kids About Sexuality. The guide is free and if you don’t have it, you can get it by clicking here. To watch the video version of this post, click here.  Best practices or "etiquette" around when we should share other people's photos online is a relatively new social consideration. For many of raising kids today, the Internet wasn't even a thing when we were young, so we didn't have to deal with any of this growing up.

When I was in high school, I posted photos on my locker door. The potential audience reach was anyone who happened to wander down the drama room hallway. But when our kids post photos on Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and other social media platforms, when youth share photos of other people, it's possible for those images to wind up anywhere.

One thing we can do in our conversations about online behaviour is to encourage our teens to think about the effect sharing information and images might have on others. I call it “online empathy”. When someone posts a photo online, we can share that photo anywhere, with virtually anyone. But should we?How might sharing the photo affect the other person, particularly if that photo is embarrassing or upsetting for them? How might it affect our relationship with that person? And regardless of whether we know the person or not, how might sharing their photo reflect on us and our character?

Exploring these questions is a chance for your to help your teens reflect on their own values in terms of how they want to treat others, and to think about how they want to live those values through their online behaviour.

What's It Like For Gay And Trans Kids At Your School?

Gender and sexual diversity is part of the human experience. If your child identifies as lesbian, gay, trans, non-binary, bisexual, pansexual or someone other than a heterosexual cisgender person, this is a chance to open up a conversation about their what their daily life is like.

"What Do You Think Are Good Reasons To Have Sex?"

When it comes to having sex, adults often give teens the advice “wait until you’re ready”. But what does “ready” mean? So today's question is one you can ask the wonderful teenage kids in your life: "What do you think are good reasons to have sex?

Donald Trump Is Going To Be President. What Do We Do Now?

As a black woman, knowing a man who seems to have my worst interests at heart will soon wield the awesome power of the White House is an intimidating prospect. But as my grief abates, I'm reminded that I'm not powerless. I'm not the leader of the free world, but I'm privileged in that I have some money, a little time and a fair bit of energy. I can support the people and causes I see as being especially vulnerable to Trump’s destructive whims. If you’re looking to do the same, I’ve made a list of organizations that could probably use a little extra love in the days, weeks and especially years to come.